Spiritual Gifts and Graces – Understanding your personality and its impact on your prayer life
I came across this list recently and was mightily impressed about how our personality determines our response in prayer, and greatly challenged by the need to spend more time co-operating with myself in prayer.
Use the Myers-Briggs test results to find your prayer type.
Sensing Types
ISTJ ISFJ
Like to spend time alone with God Like to pray alone
May like structured prayer Enjoy silent prayer
May find prayer groups less to their taste
Need to spend longer in prayer than other types
Prayer journal helpful – records progression & brings order to spiritual life
Find prayer books and prayers of others helpful
Need substantial time alone with God each day
Spontaneous praying through the day feeds spiritual hunger
Need to work at:
Non-verbal prayer (Romans 8:26-27)
Developing art of listening to God through Bible – projecting self back into scenes from Bible
Spending at least 30-60 minutes praying per day
Spontaneous prayer
ISTP ISFP
Prefer action over prayer, so pray whilst working etc. Enjoy spontaneous praise & worship in group
Will find silence helpful
See God in art, creativity & nature
Will need simple structures & self discipline to profit from prayer
Will need assurances of God’s personal love for them
Like using imagination & spontaneity to pray
Experience of Spirit is vivid & real
Will need at least 30 mins prayer daily as thrive on deep thinking
Need flexible forms of prayer & concentration
Need to work at:
Spending at least 30 minutes each day alone with God
Learning to trust God to take care of things
Prayer journal: helps to maintain intimate contact with God
ESTP ESFP
Do not need as much formal prayer as other types
Will find prayer groups helpful & enjoyable
Enjoy spontaneous praying through day, whilst working, driving etc.
Enjoy visual images
May find praying out loud helpful
Enjoy fasting & all-night prayer
Good worshippers: like being led by Spirit in prayer
Experience God in nature
Able to experience presence, love & protection of God
Find praying with others helpful
Need to work at:
Finding to time to pray alone each day
Setting aside at least 30 minutes per day to pray: reading a short passage & reflecting on it – asking what is God saying to me?
ESTJ ESFJ
Need support of others to maintain prayer life – prayer groups
Love praying in groups – helpful to spiritual growth
Find set prayers helpful Intercessory prayer important
Find it harder than other types to feel God’s presence
Enjoy praising, singing, uninhibited displaying of emotions
Need at least 30 minutes a day praying alone
Alternate between feeling close to and apart form God
Need to work at:
Training themselves to imagine & feel themselves in Gospel scenes
Being quiet & listening to God (tendency to talk all the time)
Keeping open to Spirit’s presence
Learning to talk to God as a friend in prayer
Trying to pray spontaneously
Intuitive types
INFJ INTJ
Strong dislike of formal, repetitive prayer
Need much time of private prayer
Great need for silence
Able to find best form of prayer for own needs
Should tithe waking hours – 10% to prayer, (minimum 1 hour)
Won’t enjoy prayer groups
Conversational prayer is best
Don’t appreciate spontaneous or informal prayer
Symbols & poetic images important
Good at discernment – good counsellors & spiritual directors
Looking at different forms of prayer
Journaling effective
Need to work at:
Avoiding tendency to introspection
Being careful not to treat God as just an object of study
Learning to trust goodness, care & love of God
Developing spiritual imagination
INFP INTP
Great desire to pray alone & silently – need 1 hour per day
Prefer to pray alone, in quiet, for long periods
Like structured prayer.
Must set time aside for this each day
Constantly searching for new & better ways to pray
Good at writing prayers
Prayer groups often don’t fulfil prayer needs
Enjoy intellectual meditation & reasoning
Dislike set forms of prayer
Unstructured, conversational journal helpful
Expressing emotions and developing feeling in prayer
Need to work at:
Reading short Bible passages to discern God’s voice
Setting aside time each day to help others
ENFP ENTP
Prayer a necessity for survival – need 1 hour per day
Enjoy new, complex forms of prayer
Will enjoy prayers in Bible
Enjoy novelty & originality
Need to pray alone, but will enjoy help of others
Dislike traditional, standardised ways
Dislike repetitive prayer Best with improvised prayer
Need to work at:
Being quiet & listening to God Growing in structured, disciplined praying
Putting structure into prayer life to prevent it breaking down (but too much structure will inhibit communication with God)
Understanding others’ responses to prayer
ENFJ ENTJ
Need to pray alone for 1 hour each day – half praying, half listening
Enjoy leading others in prayer
Enjoy spontaneous, conversational prayer
Enjoy worship
Can use many types of prayer
Desire structured prayer life – logical, consistent development
Best reading short passage followed by reflection
Open to receiving insights, especially during sleep
Experience God in prayer
Need to work at:
Praying alone
Trying many different forms of prayer
Quiet contemplation